Jake describes the nine-year change. This can happen early in some kids, like when they are 8 years old. It is a time when they realize for the first time that they are separate, that bad things happen, that they may die or loved ones may. It is a time to talk to your child and tell them to please communicate any fear they have and you will help them work through it. Eventually, you and your child will develop a new toolbox to deal with the empathic responses your child is experiencing by living in a world dominated by separation, duality, us against them and impermanence. Ultimately they will learn how to navigate and better to do it while young.